By: Betsy karp

Happy New Year! Start it off with a gift to yourself. Pass these inspiring questions along to people you love. Whoever gets the most people to answer these questions under the comment section below and "like" my Facebook page, gets 20% off any program of their choice.

Rules:
1. Whomever comments below must put the full name of the person who sent them here at the top of their comment (yes, you and your answer counts as well).
2. Whoever likes my Facebook page must post the full name of the person who sent them there on my wall.

Take a few minutes today and fill in the blanks. See what you get. Don’t edit. Let these uplift and inspire you to be the best you and let 2013 bring you more of all of these wonderful things.

Love is __________________________________________________

I’m grateful for __________________________________________________

I believe __________________________________________________

The world needs __________________________________________________

I hope for __________________________________________________

Life depends on __________________________________________________

Sex invigorates my __________________________________________________

Hold on to __________________________________________________

I crave some __________________________________________________

The moment is __________________________________________________

It’s time to __________________________________________________

Believe in __________________________________________________

Trust that __________________________________________________

My success depends on __________________________________________________

My appreciation is __________________________________________________


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There is a saying that it is better to give than receive. Whether you can give a little or a lot, giving is giving. Are you still searching for that perfect holiday present? How about sharing your appreciation and love? What could be better than giving someone the chance to experience self-love, catapulting them towards their dreams? Give them the gift of a happier, healthier life. Who doesn't deserve that?

***The person lucky enough to get this gift certificate from you will be able to use it towards any program of their choice listed on the work with me page. When redeeming this gift certificate, they will also get 20% off the total cost of the program(s) they choose.

Give Thanks. Thanksgiving is about appreciating all of the wonderful things you currently have in your life. It's about gratitude. It's about being present and appreciating the people in your life today. Go around the table and share at least one thing you love about everyone there and why you're grateful! It's the small things in life that make all the difference.

The holidays are here and we tend to over indulge and over eat. What happens when we eat and drink too much? Well, here’s a “12-Days of Christmas” list of things that start to happen to us:

1.   Indigestion
2.   Heartburn
3.   Bloating
4.   Weight Gain
5.   Fatigue
6.   Brain Fog
7.   Sleepiness
8.   Sore Joints
9.   Headaches
10. Depression
11. Erratic Behavior

....And, the Piece de Resistance

12. Button Popping Pants

Want to combat the list above? Here are three weapons to add to your arsenal:

1.   Be mindful of what you eat and drink
2.   Stay Present: Enjoy each bite and think about what you’re doing. Don’t feel guilty.
3.   Portion Control (a little indulgence is ok)

Click on the link below to get the full list:

http://overcomingholidaybingeeating.eventbrite.com/

Wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving.

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Gobble Gobble,

Betsy Karp,
Founder of i adore me

"We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person—someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.
I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Let our scars fall in love.”
                                       --Galway Kinnell

Relationships are in our every day lives from the people we work with, to the people we love, to our partners, to the man that serves us coffee. They make us stronger, they make us happy, they make us whole and at times they can make us crazy. Relationships take time, work and energy. They’re about being honest, being real, showing up, being kind and staying open.

One of the greatest ways to create success in your life is through understanding that your work relationships are a way to build on trust, success, confidence and growth. We’ve all gotten so used to texting. So maybe the next time you want to text or email someone a message, pick up the phone and have a dialogue. Meet someone for breakfast or coffee and build on that relationship of how you want to grow your business, what you need to get out and say. Don’t take the easy way out. Be real, be open and show up in the “old fashioned” way. Communication is key!

It takes time to build on trusting relationships. It takes persistence and courage for people to trust who you are and what your message is. This also takes a lot of clarity and patience.

Relationships also mean building a relationship with YOU. Learn to adore yourself, be happy with YOU, because you need YOUR essence and YOUR energy to be with that special someone, to build that great company and to find all that you want.

Many of my clients have reached out and asked me how to get their partner to start taking care of their health. “He’s not listening and he doesn’t care,” is what they’re telling me. This is actually a very touchy and delicate subject. How I believe you should approach this situation is to address the issues when you are doing something together, whether it’s having a lovely dinner, taking a walk or playing tennis, where the focus isn’t on, “this is what I need you to do.” How to approach this in an easy manner is, “Can we start taking daily walks together so we can both be healthy? Let’s cook some healthy meals together as a couple and learn how to make quinoa and share the experience.”

By opening up and doing things as a couple and a shared alliance, you will hopefully see a shift in your partner’s attitude (as well as your own) and a wanting to change. See if this works, give it a try, do it with love, be soft about it and see how your partner reacts. Hopefully you can share all of the great results you will have.

Are you happy in the relationship you are in right now? Are you giving it your all? Are you being kind and patient with your partner as well as yourself? Look inside yourself to find all of your strengths and your greatness so that you can share it with others. It all starts with the relationship with YOU. So adore yourself, give yourself compassion and THEN share it with someone you love.

Relationships are what keep us sane and strong. Make them work. We’d be lost without them.

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Hugs,

Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

There really is only one thing in life that we all look for and that’s called L-O-V-E. We want to be loved, adored and know that our lives matter.

I was recently at an event where Deepak Chopra spoke. He said, “If I can leave you all with one thing today, it’s to look for the love within yourself and the love for your special partner. Really the only thing that matters is love. We all think we want success, fame and money, but when it all comes down to it, we really all want love.”

If you start thinking about all the movies, songs, books, Shakespeare, etc., it’s all about love. Are you building walls or bridges with that love? If you start to look at your life and what you want, you can begin to open up your heart, open up your mind, expand your being and let go of the walls, the pain, the hurts, the disappointments, and start building the bridge to love.

Love is kind, love is patient, love is understanding, love is pink, love is compassionate, love is your friend. Are you its friend? If you haven’t made friends with love, try using pink today. Pink is the universal color for LOVE. It’s happy, youthful and sweet and it makes you smile. It’s associated with the 4th chakra (the heart chakra). Pink brings out that inner child in you that makes you feel like you can do anything. Let it empower you so you can feel free like you did as a child. Try eating some fresh watermelon, raspberries, pink grapefruit and organic salmon.

When someone is in love, you can see it a mile away. They have that pink glow in their face, they are smiling from ear to ear and it’s as though they are floating on clouds.

So if you feel blocked and trapped in your life right now and everything feels bleak, reach out for pink. When you start adoring yourself and taking care of you, you become a magnet. People want to be around your energy. Find the love within you and start showing the world all that you’ve got. Love is the answer. Don’t you agree?

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Hugs,

Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Do you feel like you’ve got the weight of the world on your shoulders? When it feels like you’re being pulled down in every direction and you feel like you can’t breathe, take a deep breath, reach out and ask for what you need.

I was recently at a breakfast for Dress For Success at The New York Stock Exchange. It was an empowering group of over two hundred women and I was invited, because I had created a self-empowering i adore me coaching program for some of the Dress For Success girls. I taught them how to dress for success by using power colors to land their dream jobs. It felt great to be part of this event.

One of the keynote speakers got up and told her personal story of how her husband had gotten very ill with Leukemia and lost his job. She was the caretaker of him and their two boys and had to become the breadwinner of the family. She was loaded down and felt like she had the weight of the world on her shoulders. She became more overwhelmed when she was asked to head up a large program overseas with the company she worked for. She talked to her boss that morning and didn’t mean to break down crying, but the tears came. She said, “I need some help. There’s no way I can take on this responsibility right now with all the obligations I have of taking care of my family.”

She had no idea what to expect. She was just being herself and asked for what she needed. To her surprise, her boss said, “Why didn’t you come to me sooner with this? Of course we’ll work with you. What is it that you need?” She couldn’t believe her ears. He repeated himself by saying, “You’ve heard me correctly. What is it that you need? How can I help?”

The point of this story is that when we need something we need to reach out and ask for it. We need to feel the worthiness within ourselves to ask for what it is we need. When we start showing up and doing this for ourselves, that load and the weight of the world on our shoulders starts to dissipate.

As I was leaving the breakfast to go uptown, there was a fabulous musician singing the song “Lean On Me.” The synchronicity of it all just warmed my heart.

Wherever you are in your life right now, reach out, ask for what you need, ask for some help and feel worthy that you deserve to get that help. As the song says:

“Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on”
--Bill Withers

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Hugs,

Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Are you coming from an ego driven place in your life? Are you looking at others and what they have achieved, feeling like you don’t compare, you haven’t done as much and you knock yourself down? It’s really important to look to others for empowerment and see what they’ve created and achieved but not to compare you to them. When we let go of our egos and come from a place of love, we start moving forward in our lives.

Creating something new is exciting and can be very challenging. When you have to stand in your own power and believe in what you are doing and saying 24/7, it can become daunting at times.

The other day I was feeling overwhelmed, looking at other spiritual healers’ and coach’s websites. I got down on myself, feeling like I’m not achieving enough and said, “Why am I not where they are?” Then I realized what I was doing.This is about serving and helping others and I realized that even if I'm helping just one person right now, I'm adding value to people's lives. So I stopped listening to my ego driven voices and realized how critical I was being with myself. All of this negativity was getting me nowhere and was hurting me. I can’t expect to be where they are in their careers after their many years of doing marketing and promotion and getting out there on a larger platform. I just recently started to believe in myself in a bigger way and have been getting clearer and clearer with the message of “i adore me.” Not only is “i adore me” a healthy way to loving yourself, but an exploration of getting out of your own way. It’s about being the best that you can be at that place you are in your life at this present moment in time. All we have is the present and we have to accept this with graciousness and patience.

It’s really important to find your own voice and trust in yourself. Yes, you will have trials, tribulations and setbacks, but if you are going to believe in what you say, you’ve gotta put it out there in your own special way. Comparing yourself to others only starts to make you feel weaker, and that’s where the ego comes into play. If you drop the ego and start focusing on what YOU are great at and what YOU have to offer, action starts happening, movement starts to begin and results occur.

Keep focusing on you. You can do this by surrounding yourself with the color orange. Orange brings about creativity and courage. Wear something orange, feel yourself connected to the color and start eating orange foods such as carrots, butternut squash and pumpkin seeds. Fall is in the air and it’s the perfect time to make delicious, homemade pumpkin muffins. So go out and pick some pumpkins, bring them home, share them with some friends, carve them, make something healthy and enjoy the harvest of Fall.

All of this ORANGE positivity will make you feel great about yourself, making you realize that YOU have something wonderful to share with the world. So stop comparing yourself to others and find all the greatness in you.

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Hugs,

Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Do you have a CAN DO attitude or a CAN’T attitude? Anything is possible if you believe it’s possible. When you start to believe that you can, you take action. Action leads to follow through and follow through leads to results. This is what you call a CAN DO attitude.

I recently went to a workshop on turning stress into strength. The speaker told us a personal story of how, when she was a little girl growing up in France, her grandmother took charge of everything. When she would ask her grandmother to do something, her grandmother replied, “You can’t. I’ll do it.” The speaker continued: “Because she wanted to always take charge and do everything, I was not capable and had an ‘I CAN’T do this’ attitude.” This experience and years of this behavior helped her in her later years learn how to transform the stress into strength.

We all did a breathing exercise at this workshop by holding our bellies (our midsection) which is our third chakra—our power center—taking 10 deep breaths in and out saying: “I can, I can…” At the end of this exercise it was incredible how much strength and power we had in our voices to say “I can.”

When we come from that place of “I CAN,” there isn’t anything we can’t do. So on those days when you are feeling “I CAN’T,” do some deep breathing, hold your power center, wear the color yellow and feel all that you can be (to learn more about how color can influence your life, click here). Creating that CAN DO attitude for yourself will start shifting every area of your life. Aren’t you ready to do that?

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Hugs,

Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Everybody thinks fear is a bad thing, but actually it’s one of the best things that can happen to you if you use it to your advantage. Fear moves us forward, it helps us to grow, it pushes us out of our comfort zone and let’s us create new opportunities for ourselves. If we didn’t have fear we wouldn’t grow. And what would be the whole point of life anyway?

Everybody gets fear. Even Tony Robbins says he still gets it. But when fear does come up, ask yourself what you’re afraid of. What are those emotions and feelings? Let them come up inside of you…don’t push them down.

When you start to embrace and feel the feelings of fear, they will begin to dissolve. That’s what’s called pushing through the fear. This is something you really need support with, so look to a coach, a therapist, some of the i adore me programs and let fear be your friend instead of your enemy.

Just yesterday I had my sixth speech at Toast Masters. The topic was “Love or Fear. Which One?” I delivered a message through explaining how when we use fear to our advantage, it really does start to empower us, holding the love as its friend. Just let the darkness of the fear go. Even though it was my sixth speech and I am getting better at all of this, the butterflies and all the fears still came up for me that night and in the morning before the speech. But after I delivered the speech and people thanked me for a new, clever and creative way to explain the difference between love and fear, it brought about a resolution inside of me: I stepped out of my comfort zone, revealing things that I’ve been through that I had been fearful of, to try and help others.

Fear is a really big subject and emotion, but when we use it to our advantage and step out of our comfort zone and speak up and speak out, it starts changing how we feel. Where are you right now in your life? Are you in a fear-based place or a love based place? Maybe you need to let fear push you so you can grow. Use fear to bring about change in you and see how great you will feel after you do it. You really will feel like you’ve accomplished something. Start looking at fear in a whole new light, embrace it with some love, then let it go.

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Hugs,

Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me