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Betsy Karp,
The Colour Coach Turn the key to your life and open up to all that is inside of you.
Listen, listen and LISTEN more to your inner voice. Follow your heart, your passion and your dreams and you will find the success you are truly looking for. It’s all right inside of you.
Don’t be afraid anymore. Do you have thoughts that keep running through your mind over and over again, like a broken record? Is it that you feel you’re not talented enough, smart enough, pretty enough or worthy enough to do or have what you desire? Well, it’s time to get out of your own way and stop the self–bullying. It’s spring and new beginnings are here for you, so follow your heart and that inner voice and let it guide you right to where your new ventures and opportunities are awaiting. Take it slow, step-by-step and you will get there.
Surround yourself with the color EMERALD GREEN. It helps with overcoming fears and blocks, and creates calm to your inner being. It also helps to increase your self-esteem; it attracts abundance and restores healthy energy. Spring is here, so get outside and go to a park or a lush garden and take in all of the beautiful greenery around you. When you’re not outside, imagine yourself in a field of lush grass just playing, being free and wandering and let go of all of the self–doubt. Feel the GREEN lift your spirits. What else can Color do for you? Click here to learn more.
So are you ready to do it? It really is as simple as believing you will be successful. It’s a shift in your mindset, of feeling worthy that you can have it all and that you deserve it all. There are many forms of success. One can say that success is about having a good paying job, owning a home, having a large family and a few vacations a year. Another might say success is solely about how much money they have. To me, success is more spiritual. It’s about owning my self worth and living as it has already happened.
It’s not about how you appear to others that makes you successful. Not to your family, not to your friends, not even to your boss. It’s all about how YOU feel and what moves and truly inspires YOU…your being! THAT is success.
I was at a dinner party the other night and I asked everyone at the table, “What is success to you?” One person answered, “Success is paying my bills and feeling good about what I do every day.” Another replied with, “Success is the creation of my child.” Still, another responded with, “Success is my way of being.”
My life is now filled with connection from so many different venues. I feel successful in who I am… just as I am. To me success = being peaceful inside and I am peaceful right now. It’s taken me a while to get here and it is a daily journey. I don’t feel this way every day, but I appreciate the days that I do. I revel in them. Every day is a gift and a new beginning for success! Life wants us to thrive, so it’s up to us to choose to believe it. Do you?
Share with us your idea of what success has been to you up to now and how this article will shape your view of success for the future. Turn the key, unlock the blocks and find your success. It’s right there; it always has been.
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 Written by: Katie Cohen
I just watched The Little Mermaid. Sprawled across the living room floor, I imagined that my legs were a beautiful green tail, gleaming against the ocean’s seabed. My short blonde bob had transformed into spaghetti length locks of fiery red that danced and twirled as I swam toward my father’s antique leather chair, which closely resembled King Tritons throne. Suddenly, the sky cast a dark shadow over my ocean, inviting the evils of the sea to emerge from their hiding places and to create the most violent storm. King Triton told me that if I could make my way across the ocean without stepping on any sea urchins, or without swimming into any dark holes, that the storm would vanish. However, if I failed to follow his advice, the angry storm would strengthen and destroy my entire sea world.
For several days, I did everything in my power to avoid the sea urchins and dark holes that King Triton warned me about. Whether I was playing the role of Ariel in The Little Mermaid or just being Katie, I still had an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach that something terrible was going to happen if I didn’t listen to the king. Eventually my six-year old Disney fantasy and my reality became interchangeable, and stepping over sea urchins manifested into the exhausting obsession of jumping over the street cracks of downtown Manhattan. This was my first experience with anxiety. Of course, I did not understand the significance of my neurotic rituals at the time or that I was becoming controlled by my thoughts.
Thoughts. The very things that allow us to create, to grow, and to distinguish ourselves as individuals. However, when fueled by anxiety, they reveal their destructive nature, often leaving people crippled and enslaved by their irrational thinking processes. Fortunately, as the masters of our minds, we have a choice. We can allow ourselves to be consumed by our fears or we can conquer them before they conquer us. While it’s easier said than done, it is possible. Take it one day at a time. Today, I will choose to step ON the street cracks.
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 Written by: Steven M. Goldsmith
Isn't it amazing how we create stories in our lives and hold onto them? We create stories about situations and relate to those stories rather than what actually happened. And if you pay close enough attention, you'll notice that that's how you relate to people as well...to your story about them rather than who they are. Wouldn't this world be a better place if we had authentic relationships instead?
How do you let go of your stories of people and situations? You stay present; you catch yourself in the act. Try that next time you talk to someone. Look at them and pay attention to the voices that arise in your head. What you'll notice is that your story about them will come up: what they did or didn't do to you, what they're wearing, who you think they are in the world, what other people think of them, if you think they are ugly or pretty, so on and so forth. Do you really think you are relating to them with all this noise in the background? You can’t. It’s impossible.
We create so many stories about people, places and objects that we see everything through a filter. It’s like those Claritin commercials: the image on TV is ever so blurry until the person has taken Claritin, and then the image is crystal clear. Think of how much brighter things would be if we saw them for what they were. Think of how much more colorful nature would be, how much better food would taste, how much more you’d be able to actually hear what people were saying. It would be a world through a crystal clear lens. You would free yourself from the prison of your mind and truly experience life!
It’s time to start relating to each other this way or you will miss our lives completely. Get out of your head, catch yourself in your story and commit to letting go of the labels and words associated with everything. Stay present and enjoy life. Living in the world of what IS instead of the world of LANGUAGE is so much more exciting. It’s a life without fear (the fears that you’ve created that don’t really exist anyway). Everyone deserves a life like that. It’s called freedom! It’s called presence. It’s called LIFE!
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 Written by: Betsy KarpTake one day at a time. Being present is enough. Don’t look back and grieve about your past for it is gone. The future has not yet arrived, so let your worries go. Live for today and enjoy your day. Today is all you’ve got!!! Make it a day to be cherished and remembered… Open your heart Chakra by using the color Green in 2013. Happy New Year! *Please comment below and share with your friends.* Hugs, Betsy Karp, Founder of i adore me
 1. Keep Giving love
2. Make time for yourself
3. Get out of your own way
4. Stay present
5. Use color to uplift you
6. Eat healthily
7. Get out in nature
8. Help others
9. Take a chance on yourself
10. Give up criticism and complaining
11. Be generous
12. Make a contribution
13. Open up
14. Communicate
15. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones
16. Take yourself on a date once a week
17. Meditate
18. Eat something you loved eating as a child
19. Laugh
20. Give hugs
21. Get a good night’s sleep
22. Exercise
23. Focus on gratitude
24. Believe in yourself
25. Live for the journey instead of the result
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Betsy Karp,
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There is a saying that it is better to give than receive. Whether you can give a little or a lot, giving is giving. Are you still searching for that perfect holiday present? How about sharing your appreciation and love? What could be better than giving someone the chance to experience self-love, catapulting them towards their dreams? Give them the gift of a happier, healthier life. Who doesn't deserve that? ***The person lucky enough to get this gift certificate from you will be able to use it towards any program of their choice listed on the work with me page. When redeeming this gift certificate, they will also get 20% off the total cost of the program(s) they choose.
 Written by: Steven M. Goldsmith
All of life is about accepting change and letting go. We lose loved ones, people move away, the elderly pass on, flowers perish and trees fall. We have pets that touch our hearts and leave us with grieving sadness. We have Grandparents who make us feel special, then move onto a higher plane leaving us feeling empty. But we don’t have to feel sad or empty. Now I’m not saying it doesn’t hurt and it isn’t sad. Of course it is. But it is also the natural progression of life and it benefits us more to accept it, breathe and move on. As Francois de la Rochefoucauld so eloquently put it, “The only thing constant in life is change.”
Now, I have been struggling with what I want out of life lately. I’ve come to a fork in the road and I’m not quite sure which way to go. It’s scary and I often don’t want to make a choice…I want things to be as I have always expected them to be and have been used to. But the universe has a different plan…Change!
I am an actor by trade but have been on the fence of whether or not I want to do it anymore. I’ve had some challenging auditions lately and have been putting a lot of pressure on myself. The pressure naturally only makes it worse, but I haven’t figured out how to “let go” of that pressure yet. This was really magnified the other day when I had a pretty bad audition; over the days that followed, I kept beating myself up for it. I held on with such ferocity, as if I might die without the self-inflicted abuse.
I had no idea how to take my mind off of…well…my mind, so I took myself on a date to see “The Life of Pi.” At first I was cynical and wasn’t enjoying it, but once I relaxed and put my focus on the movie instead of my most recent “failure,” I was drawn in. But nothing hit me quite like the quote at the end of the movie: “All of life is an act of letting go, but what hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye” (now what he meant by “not taking a moment to say goodbye” might have been one thing, but I interpreted it to stand for many different situations. It can also stand for forgiveness).
This knocked me over the head, smacked me in the face and jolted me out of my negativity. “All of life is an act of letting go…” I was holding onto this terrible audition and feeling like a failure, telling myself over and over again that I would never be great and that I destroyed chances I may never again get. Holding onto this thought, at the time, was akin to not being able to let one off of life support…I couldn’t say goodbye to it.
Now I realize I was being overly dramatic, but in that moment, that was how I was feeling: hopeless, sad, grieving and lost. I couldn’t let go of my “story.” But if I just “let go” and allowed myself to “say goodbye,” it would be done. It wasn’t still happening to me. The audition wasn’t an endless torture in a chamber of horrifying tools. The horrifying tools were my thoughts and the chamber was my mind. It wasn’t still happening, yet I kept playing it over and over and over and over again in my mind like someone was holding a gun to my head saying, “YOU MUST FEEL SHAME AND SADNESS FOR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE.” And what for?
I’ve been so unsure of my current path as a performer, being faced with this fork in the road of possibly leaving the business and starting over, that I put an exorbitant amount of pressure on this one audition to prove to me that I was “supposed” to stay in the business. It proved to be the opposite. And maybe it was a nudge to say, “keep fighting, stay the course and don’t give up”; who knows. That’s not the point. The point is to learn to let go, say goodbye (albeit, grieve a little to feel the loss so it can be fully released) and go with the flow. Accept the natural progression of life (mistakes and all), accept change and move forward, not backward.
Yes, many horrific and tragic things happen in this world--things far worse than a botched audition--but once it has happened, there’s nothing we can do to change it. We can’t go back in time to “fix” or “stop” it from happening. Once it’s done it’s done, and the only thing that seemingly keeps it going is the mind.
A fork in the road, a bad audition, a loved one passing on, etc… These are things that we’re not meant to hold onto, but we tend to anyway. We do so because it’s hard to be faced with failure and loss. It leads to change, which leads to a different direction and eventually toward a new beginning.
Change is a gift that gives us a chance to release old hurts, learn something new, discover something great and start with something fresh. Who would we be if we stayed in the present and accepted the constant change in the world and in our lives? What wouldn’t we miss? What would we give ourselves permission to do? Byron Katie, the author of “The Work,” says that when we examine depression and sadness, the only thing that ever makes us unhappy is our RESISTANCE to WHAT IS. I truly believe that if everyone learned to “let go” and “say goodbye,” we would live a much more rewarding existence and co-existence. Letting go and saying goodbye…bitter though it may feel, sweet it actually is.
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 Written by: Betsy Karp
Six people, including myself, gathered together at the MOMA to see the film documentary Marina Abramovic: The Artist is Present. This movie explores Marina’s quest of staying present. I was drawn in right away, because the film captures an artist’s life. It portrays what it is like to live the daily life of an artist: the love, the devotion, the pain, the torment, the disappointment, the success and the freedom. She describes herself as the "Grandmother of Performance Art."
In Abramovic’s work, she explores the relationship between performer and audience, the limits of the body and the possibilities of the mind. Abramovic’s three-month performance piece at the MOMA is about staying present in the stillness. She sits in a chair with her body upright and there’s an empty chair opposite her. That’s it. Nothing else. There were millions of people that gathered to watch, sitting opposite her, to be part of her performance and the stillness. People cried as they gazed in amazement as well as in disbelief.
What truly got me was how her art and stillness brought out such deep emotion in others. Her stillness was a reflection of those that sat opposite her and encountered her presence. Staying present can have different meanings. What does staying present mean to you?
I have learned over the years to embrace stillness and enjoy the moment while staying present at the same time. All we truly have is the now, this very moment, and we seem to forget that. We would all be much happier if we just lived in the now. There would be less worry, mind chatter and negativity. Worry can drive you mad and half the time we worry for nothing. It’s a time and health killer. Being present and staying in the now forces us to be accepting of what is, good or bad, and this is what you call, “STAYING PRESENT.”
Just this past weekend, someone who I love very much was in deep emotional pain. She was having physical issues that have worn down her beautiful spirit. I held her in my arms as tears rolled down her face. Her tears and pain were so deep and I could feel it all. I held her tight in my arms while consoling, holding and loving her. I then broke her tears and made her laugh asking, “Please tell me how you have the most perfect eyebrows in the world?” ”I don’t,” she replied. She lifted her head and asked, “What can I do to stop this bad feeling?”
“Stay Present,” I replied. “It’s the only way to be. You will feel so much better. Let’s focus right now on what is here. You have your mom and me who love you more than life itself. We are here for you. You are loved and adored. All is good. You are safe. As you focus on the present moment in your life and things begin to shift, you will see that by staying present you can handle the moment and then the next moment will take care of itself.” “Wow. Thank you! I’ve never looked at it that way before. I’m starting to feel better,” she blurted out.
A few days later, I received a text from her saying, “I can’t tell you how happy it made me to see you the other night. I just wanted you to know that I was actually present for the first time today. I’ve been trying to live in the moment like you suggested and it’s really helping. I love you and I am so blessed to have you in my life.”
Staying present is a way of life. It clears away a lot of the pain we put upon ourselves. It amazes me how, when we shift our mindset while staying present, the simplest things in life can be enjoyable and even therapeutic. Being present is a gift. What are you going to do in your life today while staying present?
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