There really is only one thing in life that we all look for and that’s called L-O-V-E. We want to be loved, adored and know that our lives matter.

I was recently at an event where Deepak Chopra spoke. He said, “If I can leave you all with one thing today, it’s to look for the love within yourself and the love for your special partner. Really the only thing that matters is love. We all think we want success, fame and money, but when it all comes down to it, we really all want love.”

If you start thinking about all the movies, songs, books, Shakespeare, etc., it’s all about love. Are you building walls or bridges with that love? If you start to look at your life and what you want, you can begin to open up your heart, open up your mind, expand your being and let go of the walls, the pain, the hurts, the disappointments, and start building the bridge to love.

Love is kind, love is patient, love is understanding, love is pink, love is compassionate, love is your friend. Are you its friend? If you haven’t made friends with love, try using pink today. Pink is the universal color for LOVE. It’s happy, youthful and sweet and it makes you smile. It’s associated with the 4th chakra (the heart chakra). Pink brings out that inner child in you that makes you feel like you can do anything. Let it empower you so you can feel free like you did as a child. Try eating some fresh watermelon, raspberries, pink grapefruit and organic salmon.

When someone is in love, you can see it a mile away. They have that pink glow in their face, they are smiling from ear to ear and it’s as though they are floating on clouds.

So if you feel blocked and trapped in your life right now and everything feels bleak, reach out for pink. When you start adoring yourself and taking care of you, you become a magnet. People want to be around your energy. Find the love within you and start showing the world all that you’ve got. Love is the answer. Don’t you agree?

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Do you feel like you’ve got the weight of the world on your shoulders? When it feels like you’re being pulled down in every direction and you feel like you can’t breathe, take a deep breath, reach out and ask for what you need.

I was recently at a breakfast for Dress For Success at The New York Stock Exchange. It was an empowering group of over two hundred women and I was invited, because I had created a self-empowering i adore me coaching program for some of the Dress For Success girls. I taught them how to dress for success by using power colors to land their dream jobs. It felt great to be part of this event.

One of the keynote speakers got up and told her personal story of how her husband had gotten very ill with Leukemia and lost his job. She was the caretaker of him and their two boys and had to become the breadwinner of the family. She was loaded down and felt like she had the weight of the world on her shoulders. She became more overwhelmed when she was asked to head up a large program overseas with the company she worked for. She talked to her boss that morning and didn’t mean to break down crying, but the tears came. She said, “I need some help. There’s no way I can take on this responsibility right now with all the obligations I have of taking care of my family.”

She had no idea what to expect. She was just being herself and asked for what she needed. To her surprise, her boss said, “Why didn’t you come to me sooner with this? Of course we’ll work with you. What is it that you need?” She couldn’t believe her ears. He repeated himself by saying, “You’ve heard me correctly. What is it that you need? How can I help?”

The point of this story is that when we need something we need to reach out and ask for it. We need to feel the worthiness within ourselves to ask for what it is we need. When we start showing up and doing this for ourselves, that load and the weight of the world on our shoulders starts to dissipate.

As I was leaving the breakfast to go uptown, there was a fabulous musician singing the song “Lean On Me.” The synchronicity of it all just warmed my heart.

Wherever you are in your life right now, reach out, ask for what you need, ask for some help and feel worthy that you deserve to get that help. As the song says:

“Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on”
--Bill Withers

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Are you coming from an ego driven place in your life? Are you looking at others and what they have achieved, feeling like you don’t compare, you haven’t done as much and you knock yourself down? It’s really important to look to others for empowerment and see what they’ve created and achieved but not to compare you to them. When we let go of our egos and come from a place of love, we start moving forward in our lives.

Creating something new is exciting and can be very challenging. When you have to stand in your own power and believe in what you are doing and saying 24/7, it can become daunting at times.

The other day I was feeling overwhelmed, looking at other spiritual healers’ and coach’s websites. I got down on myself, feeling like I’m not achieving enough and said, “Why am I not where they are?” Then I realized what I was doing.This is about serving and helping others and I realized that even if I'm helping just one person right now, I'm adding value to people's lives. So I stopped listening to my ego driven voices and realized how critical I was being with myself. All of this negativity was getting me nowhere and was hurting me. I can’t expect to be where they are in their careers after their many years of doing marketing and promotion and getting out there on a larger platform. I just recently started to believe in myself in a bigger way and have been getting clearer and clearer with the message of “i adore me.” Not only is “i adore me” a healthy way to loving yourself, but an exploration of getting out of your own way. It’s about being the best that you can be at that place you are in your life at this present moment in time. All we have is the present and we have to accept this with graciousness and patience.

It’s really important to find your own voice and trust in yourself. Yes, you will have trials, tribulations and setbacks, but if you are going to believe in what you say, you’ve gotta put it out there in your own special way. Comparing yourself to others only starts to make you feel weaker, and that’s where the ego comes into play. If you drop the ego and start focusing on what YOU are great at and what YOU have to offer, action starts happening, movement starts to begin and results occur.

Keep focusing on you. You can do this by surrounding yourself with the color orange. Orange brings about creativity and courage. Wear something orange, feel yourself connected to the color and start eating orange foods such as carrots, butternut squash and pumpkin seeds. Fall is in the air and it’s the perfect time to make delicious, homemade pumpkin muffins. So go out and pick some pumpkins, bring them home, share them with some friends, carve them, make something healthy and enjoy the harvest of Fall.

All of this ORANGE positivity will make you feel great about yourself, making you realize that YOU have something wonderful to share with the world. So stop comparing yourself to others and find all the greatness in you.

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Did you know that your subconscious mind is a thousand times stronger than your conscious mind? There is so much that goes on underneath your entire being that you don’t even realize how it affects your actual life. You need to clear and get rid of old blocks, subconscious beliefs and reprogram yourself to create what you want in your life. Are you ready?

I was listening to a beautiful interview on the Internet the other day with Marie Forleo and Dr. Cathy Collautt. Dr. Collautt gave five wonderful tips on how to reprogram your subconscious mind to get what you want and I want to share them with you:

1.    Whatever you’re having resistance with, be gentle with yourself and tap into the wisdom that’s within you. Be humble.
2.    Get specific on what it is you are fearful of. Get in touch with those fears. Don’t suppress them. Acknowledge them and figure out what it is you need to work on.
3.    Make a promise and a commitment to yourself that you are going to raise your own vibration and set an intention for what that is.
4.    Look to find a mentor (someone who is an expert in the field of what you want to achieve).
5.   Affirm your beliefs and do this before bed, while meditating and/or upon awakening.

What I loved about this interview is that Dr. Collautt really went into specifics on how to gain control over your subconscious. She says, “It’s not about getting permission but gaining mastery over yourself.”

We must realize that it’s the outer condition of our lives that reflects what is going on in our inner belief systems. We must find that thing within us that we want to bring out into the world that makes us special. Every single person has something that is meant to be shared with the universe and YOU are no exception! Surrounding ourselves with the color yellow subconsciously gives us courage. So try surrounding yourself with yellow. Yellow supports positivity, optimism, strength and empowerment. If you don’t trust and believe that you are worthy, try some of these yellow-based foods: pineapple, lemon, yellow melon and sunflower oil. They aid in the power of the solar plexus chakra, your power center.

Use these tips to help train yourself in getting your subconscious to align with your conscious. The power of the subconscious is so strong and you need to work through your limiting beliefs to create all the greatness within you. What’s stopping you?

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Don’t you love to dream? What are you dreaming about right now? How many of your dreams have come true? What’s the next one on your list and how are you going to make that happen? Here are the 10 simple signs if a dream of yours is about to come true:

(taken from TUT…A Note from the Universe: theuniverse@tut.com)

10. You regularly visualize the end result, the after-party, or beyond.
9. Every day you “show up,” doing something about it.
8. You’re not attached to how it will come true.
7. It really matters to you; you really care.
6. You know who the first 3 people are that you’ll call with the news.
5. You’re smiling and winking way more than normal.
4. Sometimes you speak and behave as if it already has.
3. It probably doesn’t depend upon specific people.
2. You already know what your next goal is.
1. You keep whispering, “Sweet! Thank you! Yes!” with clutched fists.

I think the thing to contemplate about dreams is to ask yourself what it is you really want. And, do you BELIEVE you can really have what you want? And then you have to let it go and release it completely, with no attachments. The universe has a very funny way of showing up for how our dreams come true.

I was at a dinner party last evening and there was a lovely couple there. I always love to ask people how they met. The man chimed in, “I would love to tell you the story, because it’s a good one.”

This 65-year-old man decided to go on JDate. He had been divorced and decided after a few years that it was time to get back up on the saddle. The daughter of the woman who he is now married to, found him on JDate, reached out to him and told him that he had to take her mom out. She also said that he was in for the treat of his life and that this was the woman he was going to fall in love with.

The daughter emailed this man 3 days in a row saying, “Why aren’t you calling my mom? Why aren’t you acknowledging my emails?” After the fourth email, he decided “what the hell, I’ll try it.” He took her out on a Thursday and was in love by Saturday! He was telling me how she was nothing he wanted: she had two kids at home, was very recently widowed, she’s 5-foot-2 (he’s 6’4”) and it didn’t seem like it was going to be a fit. He said, “but let me tell you, she’s the dream of my life.”

What I love about all this is that we don’t know how the universe will make our dreams come true. But if we relax, open up, let go and let it do its magic, everything we want can come into our world. What’s your ultimate dream?

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Do you have a CAN DO attitude or a CAN’T attitude? Anything is possible if you believe it’s possible. When you start to believe that you can, you take action. Action leads to follow through and follow through leads to results. This is what you call a CAN DO attitude.

I recently went to a workshop on turning stress into strength. The speaker told us a personal story of how, when she was a little girl growing up in France, her grandmother took charge of everything. When she would ask her grandmother to do something, her grandmother replied, “You can’t. I’ll do it.” The speaker continued: “Because she wanted to always take charge and do everything, I was not capable and had an ‘I CAN’T do this’ attitude.” This experience and years of this behavior helped her in her later years learn how to transform the stress into strength.

We all did a breathing exercise at this workshop by holding our bellies (our midsection) which is our third chakra—our power center—taking 10 deep breaths in and out saying: “I can, I can…” At the end of this exercise it was incredible how much strength and power we had in our voices to say “I can.”

When we come from that place of “I CAN,” there isn’t anything we can’t do. So on those days when you are feeling “I CAN’T,” do some deep breathing, hold your power center, wear the color yellow and feel all that you can be (to learn more about how color can influence your life, click here). Creating that CAN DO attitude for yourself will start shifting every area of your life. Aren’t you ready to do that?

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

“Mirror, mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?” When you look into the mirror first thing in the morning what do you say to yourself? Is it something that brings out the best in you or are you bringing out your critical nature and hurting yourself? Isn’t it time you looked in the mirror and into your own eyes and said: “I’m pretty cool…I really do love myself!” just as the universe does, as a beautifully whole, complete and loving soul?

You are a reflection of all that you are. Do you like the relationship you are in now? Do you like the people you are attracting into your world?

This week, a client of mine came in with incredible rage and anger of where he was in his life. The exercise I had him do was to stand in front of the mirror, with me by his side, and share with me five physical traits he liked about himself. He glanced at me and gave me this look like, “Seriously, I have to do this?” My answer was, “Yes. You will start to see a shift after this exercise.”

He was so hesitant and even angry to do the exercise, but after 15 minutes of explaining to me what he liked physically about himself, as well as 5 emotional things that have resonated with him in the last week, he couldn’t believe how he was starting to feel better and lighter. He realized he had done some really kind things for others. His eyes opened and his smile became warm. He looked back and forth at me and the mirror and said, “I can’t believe that I’m liking my reflection.”

It really is as simple as getting some support and taking a really good look at whom you are. As we start to like our reflection in the mirror, it is incredible whom and what we start attracting in our every day lives. Everyone that is in your life RIGHT NOW is a direct, mirrored reflection of where you are at this moment. So ask the mirror today, when you look back in it, "how do I look and feel?" Be present with yourself, push that smile up, find the love in your eyes and give that mirror a beautiful reflection of all that you are!

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

For the last three months I have been writing the Daily Insights Blog on all subjects ranging from love to life, to fear, to color, to procrastination, to energy and the list goes on. It has been so exciting to get your feedback and your insights on how the blog is hitting you in a certain way. I do want to ask all of you a huge favor. Please share your wonderful comments under the actual blog on my website www.iadoreme.com instead of emailing them to me personally. I am SO grateful for the comments and what you are saying. Your comments mean more to me than even what I’m writing sometimes. I am writing these blogs for YOU, so your feedback is what’s most important to me!

That’s why I’m reaching out and writing this blog today. The more feedback you guys give me, the more insight I get as to how to develop different types of blogs and what you are really looking for. What’s hitting home in your heart and your energy field.

My dream is to start an i adore me community where we can share what’s going on with us and open up, getting out the hurt, frustration and whatever it may be that we’re going through. What amazes me about this process is we are all one. And as I’m experiencing something, so is someone else.

I was very inspired by Mastin Kipp, who started writing daily emails to friends in 2005 from Starbucks and sharing them on Myspace. He started out with a few friends that grew to a few hundred and then to a few thousand. Then one day, Kim Kardashian “liked” his blog and then Oprah called. He now has about 50,000 followers on Facebook and a total of 600,000 followers between all of his media sights. He is one person who had a vision, a need and a willingness to share his truth in times when he was really down and out. It’s exploded, because people want to hear the truth and what’s really going on inside.

The thing today that everyone is focusing on (the youtube videos and everything else in the media world) is sharing your true authentic essence of who you are, flaws and all, love and all and lightness and all.

So come on board and be a part of the i adore me community. Send the blogs to a friend, leave comments and tell some stories. Share your point of view.

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

When was the last time you had breakfast in bed? I can’t remember the last time I was served breakfast in bed. I think it’s getting to be time for that experience again.

When someone brings you breakfast in bed it shows love, warmth, “I really care for you,” “I want to make you happy,” and “I love having you in my world.” Relationships are about taking care of one another: giving, receiving, sharing, and most importantly, loving one another. It’s the small gestures in life that make us happy. Not the big, grandiose diamond necklaces, but a card or a phone call saying “I love you.” Or…possibly…breakfast in bed.

My good friend, Steven, has a broken ankle and has been laid up for three weeks now. I came over to see him and his wonderful partner John brought him this beautiful tray with a bowl of cereal, the cutest little white pitcher of milk, a napkin, spoon, a cup of coffee and a question: “is there anything else I can get you?” Seeing this beautiful gesture made my heart smile and I was happy for both of them. It was such a kind act of love. When’s the last time you gave to someone like this?

When you are down and out on your luck, injured and/or hurt, there’s nothing like having good friends, a partner and others who truly care about you; people who give from a place of loving, doing it just because they care. Make time for someone in need. Volunteer if you can. Do something for someone else just because. There doesn’t even have to be a reason.

It feels so good to give. I believe it’s better than receiving. So keep on giving, keep on loving, keep on sharing and spread that love to your lover, your partner, your family and your friends. Whether it’s breakfast in bed, a note to say I care or volunteering at a homeless shelter, give back and see how wonderful it makes you feel.

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me

Life is about living in the now, being present and showing up for you today. It’s about creating what you need to in this day, right now. Not one day. Not someday. But today! So be wild. Show your true colors. Be silly. Be outrageous and have fun. Live Uncensored! Be YOU!

Our every day present actions bring us to where we need to be today and in our futures. Our thoughts, our state of consciousness when we are living in the now and being positive help us to create positive action. Are you present right now?

Everyone thinks that there’s some magical moment that is going to shift their entire lives. There are, on occasions, that phone call that you get from Oprah, or a lead in a movie, but they’re rare and you can’t hold your breath for those. The way to do all of this is by planting seeds. Seeds need to be nourished, watered, loved and cared for before they can be harvested.

Our daily actions and steps in our lives to create what we want are very much like these seeds being planted. Make those phone calls, pick yourself up and get yourself to a new meet-up, connect with old clients, call a colleague, reach out and start taking action to create what you want for yourself.

So what does it mean to BE your day? It means to own your essence of what you want to accomplish TODAY! Own who you are in this very day. FEEL your empowerment. Take ACTION. BE in your power and OWN your day.

Fears come up, procrastination exists and that’s ok. You’re human. Acknowledge them. Don’t suppress the fears. Feel them and give them a really good dose of love, kindness and compassion.

So it’s time to get off your butt and make your day happen…not waiting for some day, tomorrow or next week, but today. Live today, BE your day and make something happen. I know you’re going to feel great. Share what you are going to do today.

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Betsy Karp,

Founder of i adore me